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How to write wedding vows that sound like you
A simple structure, prompts to get started, length, examples of promises and tips for reading them aloud without crying (too much).
Free tool · Ceremony & traditions: Wedding vow builder
Answer a few prompts — a moment, what you love, a few promises — and get a first draft of vows that sound like you, with how long they will take to say.
Your answers
When you knew, or a small everyday moment. Specific beats poetic.
my love, I have been thinking about how to put this into words for months. Today I choose you, and I will keep choosing you, every day after this one.
Words30
Spoken lengthabout 0:14One to two minutes is ideal.
A starting draft — rewrite it in your own words, read it aloud a few times and print it on a card for the day. Your answers stay in this browser.
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Get it free See all fiveHow to use it
- 01Answer the prompts with specific, true details.
- 02Choose a closing line.
- 03Rewrite the draft in your own words, read it aloud and print it on a card.
Good to know
How long should wedding vows be?
About one to two minutes each — roughly 150 to 250 words.
Can we use this for a vow renewal?
Yes. Choose “a vow renewal” and write about the years you have shared.
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