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Ceremony, vows & readings: Writing your vows

A memory, what you love, a few promises and a closing line — one to two minutes each.

The key points

  • Agree length and tone together
  • Specific beats poetic
  • Mix serious and light promises
  • Read them aloud beforehand

Traditional vows

“To have and to hold, for better, for worse…” — use them or add one personal line.

Read more about writing your vows

Quick answers

How long should wedding vows be?

About one to two minutes each, roughly 150–250 words.

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What are the groom’s responsibilities?

There is no fixed list any more. Most grooms share the planning, own several areas completely, choose and look after the groomsmen, write vows or a speech, and help thank guests and vendors.

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