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Engagement season: Engagement parties

An optional, relaxed celebration within a few months of the proposal. Invite only people who will be invited to the wedding.

The key points

Anyone can host
Two to three hours is plenty
Gifts aren’t expected
Keep toasts short and warm

Engagement party ideas

Backyard barbecue, brunch, cocktails at home or a picnic — a party in each city if families live apart.

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Just engagedEngagement party etiquette: who hosts, who’s invited, what to do

Quick answers

Do we need an engagement party?

No. If you have one, invite only people who will also be invited to the wedding, and don’t expect gifts. See the engagement party guide.

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Do you bring a gift to an engagement party?

It isn’t required. Some guests bring a small gift or card; the main wedding gift comes later.

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Who pays for the engagement party?

The host. That might be parents, friends or the couple.

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Do you have to have an engagement party?

No. It is entirely optional. Many couples skip it or combine it with another family gathering.

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