“Mother of the bride dresses” is one of the most-searched wedding phrases, and the same questions come up every time: what color, how formal, and how to coordinate. The short answer: match the wedding’s formality, complement the palette, and choose something you can wear for ten hours.
When to shop
Start four to six months before the wedding, after the bridesmaid dresses are chosen. Leave six to eight weeks for alterations.
Colors that work
Navy, champagne, soft metallics, dusty blue, sage, blush, burgundy and jewel tones photograph well and suit most palettes. Ask the couple for their colors, and use the palette builder to see how your choice sits with the bridesmaids.
Styles for every formality
| Dress code | Good choices |
|---|---|
| Black tie | Floor-length gown, elegant jumpsuit |
| Formal | Long or tea-length dress, dressy suit |
| Cocktail | Midi or knee-length dress, tailored set |
| Casual or outdoor | Flowing midi, linen, block heels |
Comfort counts
Sleeves or a jacket for cool evenings, a stretchy lining, shoes you have broken in and a small clutch for tissues. Plan to sit, stand, hug and dance.
Not a dress person? A tailored suit, palazzo pants or a jumpsuit is just as elegant. The same advice applies to stepmothers and grandmothers.
General information, not legal, medical or financial advice. Confirm details with your vendors, venue, officiant and local authorities.
Questions people ask
What color should the mother of the bride wear?
A shade that complements the wedding palette without matching the bridesmaids — navy, champagne, dusty blue, sage and jewel tones are popular.
Does the mother of the bride choose her dress first?
Traditionally, yes; she then shares it with the mother of the groom so they can coordinate.
Can the mother of the bride wear black?
At an evening or formal wedding, black is usually fine. Ask the couple first.
