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Bridal & couples showers: Hosting a shower

Friends, attendants or relatives host, two to six months before the wedding, for two to three hours.

The key points

  • Agree the guest list with the couple
  • Everyone invited must be invited to the wedding
  • Send invitations four to six weeks ahead
  • One or two activities are plenty

Who pays for the shower

Whoever hosts usually pays, sometimes split between several hosts.

Work showers

Colleagues can host one without wedding invitations.

Read more about hosting a shower

Quick answers

Do you have to have a bridal shower?

No. It is optional, and many couples skip it, combine it with another event, or have a couples shower instead.

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Who plans the bridal shower?

Usually the maid of honor, bridesmaids, friends or family — anyone close who offers.

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Do you give a gift at a bridal shower and the wedding?

Traditionally yes: a smaller gift at the shower and a main gift for the wedding.

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How much should you spend on a bridal shower gift?

Whatever you’re comfortable with. Many guests spend less on the shower gift than on the wedding gift.

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