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Family roles, children & blended families: Mother of the bride and groom

Often helps with planning, hosts events and has a place of honor. Outfits coordinate with the wedding without matching the wedding party.

The key points

  • Choose a meaningful role
  • Coordinate outfits between mothers
  • A corsage and reserved seat
  • A dance or toast if wanted

What the mother of the bride wears

Something elegant in the wedding’s formality, not white and not matching bridesmaids.

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Quick answers

Does the mother of the bride choose her dress first?

Traditionally, yes; she then shares it with the mother of the groom so they can coordinate.

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What does the mother of the groom do?

Traditionally she may host the rehearsal dinner, help with the groom’s side of the guest list and greet guests. Today roles are flexible — ask the couple what would help.

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What color should the mother of the bride wear?

A shade that complements the wedding palette without matching the bridesmaids — navy, champagne, dusty blue, sage and jewel tones are popular.

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Can the mother of the bride wear black?

At an evening or formal wedding, black is usually fine. Ask the couple first.

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