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Guest list & etiquette: Plus-ones and children

Invite established partners by name; plus-ones for single guests are a kindness. Decide a children rule and apply it to everyone.

The key points

  • Partners of married and engaged guests
  • Plus-ones when someone knows no one
  • All kids, family only or adults-only
  • Say it on the website, kindly

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Quick answers

Is it rude to not give a plus-one?

Not if you apply a clear rule to everyone. Partners who are married, engaged or living together should always be invited by name.

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Can I bring a plus-one if the invitation doesn’t say so?

No. Invitations are addressed to exactly who is invited. If you’re unsure, ask the couple kindly and accept their answer.

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Do you have to give every guest a plus-one?

No. Invite the partners of married, engaged and long-term couples by name. Plus-ones for single guests are a kindness, especially for people who won’t know anyone.

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How do you word an adults-only invitation?

Address it only to the adults invited, and explain kindly on the website.

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