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Guest list & etiquette: Tricky guest-list etiquette

Exes, bosses, estranged relatives and people who invited you to theirs — the rules are yours, but consistency keeps the peace.

The key points

  • You don’t owe anyone an invitation
  • Coworkers: the whole team or none
  • B-lists go out at least six weeks ahead
  • Never invite to showers but not the wedding

Read more about tricky guest-list etiquette

Quick answers

What should I write in a wedding card?

Congratulate them, share a wish for their marriage, and add a personal line. Our card wording ideas help.

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When should thank-you notes be sent after the wedding?

Most etiquette guides suggest within about three months. Gifts that arrive before the wedding can be thanked right away.

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How long do you have to send wedding thank-you notes?

Most etiquette guides suggest within about three months.

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