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Wedding party: Flower girls, ring bearers and junior attendants

Children aged about 3–8 make lovely flower girls and ring bearers; older children can be junior attendants.

The key points

  • Replica rings for ring bearers
  • A parent on the aisle
  • Practice at the rehearsal
  • A plan B for shy kids

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Do you need both a flower girl and a ring bearer?

No. Include whichever children you’d like, or neither.

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Should we give the flower girl and ring bearer a gift?

A small gift is a lovely thank-you: a book, a toy or a keepsake from the day.

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Who walks down the aisle first?

In many Western ceremonies: officiant and groom take their places, then grandparents and parents are seated, then attendants, the maid of honor, ring bearer and flower girl, and finally the bride. See the ceremony order guide.

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What age is a ring bearer?

Usually around 3–8 years old.

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